Hey, Red! You totally rock! I'm proud of you for sticking up for yourself and others. When are people going to realize that we are all the same underneath our skins? We're all hungry, bleeding children who just want a little love and acceptance. Is that SO MUCH TO ASK? 

// posted by Beth @ 2:45 AM

  The FTM DEbate I posted this on Craigslist 2 nights ago in response to hate e-mails that transgendered people do not belong on W4W. I received many positive responses as well as date invitations.

The FTM debate

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Reply to: your anonymous craigslist address will appear here
Date: Sun Sep 28th 09:54

Are we still doing it? Scapegoating ? I am perplexed-- confused about the belligerent animosity toward FTMs. I am a TG Butch of color and I don't wish to transition, yet I don't feel completely comfortable in my body. I get called "Sir" a hundred times on a daily basis. If I could-- I would have chest surgery not because I want male privilege, but because I would feel more comfortable in my body. Happier. I love women, but I have never completely felt like one.

What do you consider me? Should I be allowed to post here? Am I "Woman" enough or am I not welcome as well?

I don't enjoy being in my body and walking into the women's room and have
people screech in fear that I am in the "WRONG" bathroom or think I am there to rob or rape them.

Should I use the Men's room?

The fact is that we make those of you who lash out at us feel really uncomfortable- the way a gay man makes some straight men feel uncomfortable. Guess what? We feel prettty uncomfortable!

I don't enjoy waking up everyday of my life feeling like I don't fit in this body or in this world because I don't feel female or male. For those of you who feel like "we" the transgender/FTM folks are just having a party, we're not. It's no fun to feel this way every single day. Be glad you were born in the "Correct" body and that you feel connected to yourself physically because you are very lucky.

The truth is that we live in a very gender restrictive society and if you don't fit in the male or female box, you are the enemy-- different --a freak of nature. Well, I am very saddened-- saddened by the lack of compassion and tolerance in our community. The hate that seethes on this board is really quite unbelievable. You should feel ashamed of yourselves for acting like the individuals of bigoted mainstream America.

I will meet anyone face to face to have this conversation. It's important enough to me to do so. So if any of you "Individuals" who are disturbed enough to post your hate, show that you have courage enough to face one of "us".

---Or you can continue to post your hate anonymously and I suspect most of you will because most people who strive to understand usually are not so judgmental about subjects in which they know nothing about.

So, Who's first?

RED


 

// posted by Red @ 12:35 AM

  You say it's your birthday..... It's my birthday too! Tomi had a splendid birthday party at Mark's house for my 22nd birthday (38th) There was yummy chinese food and party games, but Mr. Francisco was way too drunk for words-- it was quite funny. Beth, Michael, Laura and her girlfriend Coco, Martha, Francisco and his friend Kimberley, Mark, Tomi and Me. I finally got Chinese balls.... errrrrr.ummmm. the metal kind that chime-- I am very musical--- meditation balls-- you silly! I also got a Gift certificate for Pearl Art supply a computer printer, a gift certificate from the body shop. Martha modeled a very revealing dress for all of us and she was enjoyting the camera very much. As sexy as she is-- she's still my monkey ;) It was great fun! Thanks to all ;0

Today Tomi , T and I went to IKEA and Target-- It was a shopping fiesta-- but now we are exhausted. I hate shopping . It remind me of how addicting it is to shop. I'm up because I can't sleep. The more I sleep the older I get. I am having a weird neurosis about sleeping at a decent hour. Is this normal? 

// posted by Red @ 11:50 PM

  Didn't I say I HATE the Heat? HOT!!!!!!!!!! I'm hot, irritated and cranky. This heat is gonna make me cry :( I know some of you just LOVE IT. Well, you'll can have my share. I am doing bodywork today too. Ok-- I'm close to delirIum so let me get some ice cold water. ANYONE WANNA COME OVER AND FAN ME? If I was in Hawaii-- I wouldn't care as much-- maybe I'll look at photos of palm trees. ex and the City won nothing on the Emmy's last night. Everything is fixed. Ahhhhhhh.  

// posted by Red @ 1:50 PM

  Ooohhh DURA Brite Color ***eye candy*** My girlfriend got me an early birthday present. The new EPSON cx5200 Printer/scanner/copier with super-fabulous DURA Brite ink. It's so colorful and vibrant. I love gadgets. My birthday is next week. Anoter year has passed and I'm still not famous. What the hell? Well one day soon I will be famous and rich and on television. You'll see :) 

// posted by Red @ 12:10 AM

  Craigslist Anonymous My girlfriend says that I am a Craighead. All day long Craigslist Craigslist Craigslist.
Hi, My name is RED and I'm a Craighead-- it's better than eating bread-- or being dead, but not getting some ---- ummm, nevermind ;)
Craigslist anonymous: God grant me the power to realize I don't need every single thing just because it's free-- etc....

We watched the 1st episode of CARNIVALE on HBO Sunday. My rabbit would love it-- it's bizarre and freaky. She likes those things-- it's kind of like an acid trip in a bad dream. HBO has the BEST shows!  

// posted by Red @ 6:53 AM

  The attack of the pack I started a new business called sf pack attack- I had my first client yeasterday- I go to people's houses and help them pack, unpack, organize all the shit they have , but don't really need, act as a therapist and listen to their funny stories. Now, isn't that a good service? I like having variety. :)

Today, my sweet girlfriend installed the NEW modem and ethernet card because I am computer -phobic and because the rabbit has jury duty-- everyone knows the Black Pearl is more important than the government-- sheesh. It seems to be working fine, but I can tell when we are both on-line becasue it is a little slower-- not bad, though.

Tonight we will watch the last episode of the Sex and the City season-- there will be a second half starting up in January-- thank goodness. The new HBO show Carnivale is on tonight however-- that's very exciting. I wish all my friends lived in the same building with me. When I become rich that's what I want. :)

Now, I'm off to make bbq chicken for our Sunday night dinner.  

// posted by Red @ 6:30 PM

  Hot Hot Hot!!! It's hot today and I hate the heat. (Yes, I am a native San Franciscan and anything over 68 degrees is considered hot.) I haven't been able to write because I'm not sure what to say. Well, today I went to massage schoool to help teach, which is always exciting because there are cute, young girls who ask me questions ;) Our new modem and ethernet card came today-- thank GOD -- The Black Pearl has been great and so much better than the Tazmanian Devil (the old computer) I am going to make a pork chop for dinner now. Ciao-- my pretties :)
Now, Tomi can use her own laptop and we can stop fighting for internet time.
The silly rabbit will help us install it- soon hopefully. 

// posted by Red @ 6:02 PM

  Computers make me want to scream! The Black Pearl is great. So why is it drowning me in confusion? Huh? Why, Cat, why? 

// posted by Beth @ 8:57 PM

  Pearl continued Finally! We got the Black Pearl (my new DELL) up and running. It took all night long, but between midnight snacks, near screams and tantrums, and Beth's persistence to get the Pearl to run-- success prevailed for the most part. A few glitches need to be pounded out, but I took us all to It's Tops--a disgustingly good greasy spoon for breakfast and coma inducing desserts. If all the bacon, sausage, eggs, waffles and pancakes weren't enough-- we indulged like the gluttens we are in massive scoops of ice cream, whip cream, brownie and pie. Just talking about it makes me want to hurl. The attendees were myself, Tomi, Beth and Michael. I don't want to eat another thing. 

// posted by Red @ 10:46 AM

  The Black Pearl My brand new Jet black DELL computer with a flat screen was PAIN IN THE ASS. Beth came over to help me install the beast and nearly had a stroke because not a damn thing was working for hours. I sat quietly as she raged and cussed at poor black pearl in between making her fatty snack she is not allowed to consume, such as grilled cheese sandwiches and mac and cheese with tuna in the middle of the night. Michael sleeps like a drugged baby on the futon as Beth tosses her bra at him. No. There is no movement by her New York Times reading boy (He reads the NY Times like I eat ice cream.)  

// posted by Red @ 2:20 AM