| The Minister shall say:
"We have come together here
in celebration of the joining together of (N) and (N). There are
many things to say about marriage. Much wisdom concerning the joining
together of two souls has come our way through all paths of belief, and
from many cultures. With each union, more knowledge is gained
and more wisdom gathered. Though we are unable to give all this knowledge
to these two who stand before us, we can hope to leave with them the knowledge
of love and its strengths and the anticipation of the wisdom that comes
with time."
"The law of life is love
unto all beings. Without love, life is nothing, without love, death
has no redemption. Marriage is a bond to be entered into only after
considerable thought and reflection. As with any aspect of life,
it has its cycles, its ups and its downs, its trials and its triumphs.
With full understanding of this, (N) and (N) have come here today to be
joined as one in the bond of marriage."
"Others would ask, at this
time, who gives the bride in marriage, but Woman is not property
to be bought and sold, given and taken. We ask simply if she comes
of her own will."
The Minister shall turn to
the bride, and say:
"(N), is it true that
you come of your own free will and accord?"
And the bride shall respond:
"Yes, it is true."
And the Minister shall then
say:
"Please join hands
and listen to that which I am about to say. . . . .Above you are the stars,
below you are the stones, as time passes, remember. . .like a stone, your
love should be firm; like a star, your love should be constant. Let
the powers of the mind and of the intellect guide you in your marriage,
let the strength of your wills bind you together, let the power of love
and desire make you happy, and the strength of your dedication make
you inseparable. Be close, but not too close. Possess one another,
yet be understanding. Have patience with one another, for storms
will come, but they will pass quickly. Be free in giving affection
and warmth. Have no fear and let not the ways of the unenlightened
give you unease, for Goddess is with you always."
The Unity Candle -
Minister :
"Marriage brings
two people into a unique relationship. While each is separate,
we arrive here with a past full of love and remembrance. In this
union you will share many experiences as if you were one yet each of you
retain your identity. I invite you now to light this candle as a
symbol of the union of your lives. May your love so endure that its
flame remains a guiding light unto you."
(remind the Bride
to give her bouquet to her Maids of Honor)
The bride holds the candle
while the groom lights it.
The Exchange of Rings-
The Minister shall then say:
"The circle of the
ring speaks of the continual nature of love for it has no beginning and
it has no end. May this circle of love declare your unity and oneness
of your life together. And may these rings represent a love glowing
with increasing luster through the years before you."
The Minister shall then say
to the Groom:
"N, I have not the
right to bind you to N; only you have this right. If it be your wish,
say so at this time and place your ring in her hand."
And the groom shall respond:
"It is my wish."
The Minister shall then say
to the Bride:
"(N), if it be your
wish for (N) to be bound to you, place the ring on his finger."
And the bride shall place
the ring on the groom's left ring finger.
The Minister shall then say
to the Bride:
"(N), I have not
the right to bind you to (N); only you have this right. If it be
your wish, say so at this time, and place your ring in his hand."
And the bride shall answer:
"It is my wish."
The Minister shall then say
to the Groom:
"(N), if it be your
wish for (N) to be bound to you, place the ring on her finger."
And the groom shall place
the ring on the bride's left ring finger.
The Minister shall then say
to the Groom:
"I, (grooms full
name), in the name of the spirit of God and Goddess that resides within
us all, and the love that resides within my heart, I take thee (bride's
full name) to be my chosen one. I promise to love thee wholly
and completely, in sickness and in health, through good times and bad,
in life and beyond."
The Minister shall then say
to the Bride:
"I, (bride's full
name), in the name of the spirit of Goddess that resides within us all,
and the love that resides within my heart, take thee, (Groom's full name)
to be my chosen one. I promise to love thee wholly and completely, in sickness
and in health, through good times and bad, in life and beyond."
The Minister shall then say:
"May the sacred curve
of Her arm enfold you. May the stars of Her dark veil cover you."
The Binding-
(Best person explains
briefly the symbolism behind the ribbon binding, while (N) and (N) join
left hands and Minister begins the binding. Ribbon is tied so that
couple can remove their hands without untying the ribbon.)
Best Person :
"Tying the knot did
not start out being an abstract term; the lovers' knot that binds two hands
together represents an indissoluble union, and the tying of a knot is still
practiced in various ways by different peoples as a symbol of love, affection,
faith, friendship, and duty."
Minister :
"Love made fast by
tying together." (Removes the ribbon, still tied.)
Best Person : [ Apache Wedding
Prayer ]
"Now you will feel no rain,
For each of you will be shelter to the other.
Now you will feel
no cold,
For each of you will be warmth to the other.
Now there is no more
loneliness,
For each of you will be companion to the other.
Now you are two bodies,
But there is only one life before you.
Go now to your dwelling
place
To enter into the days of your togetherness
And may your days
be good and long upon the earth."
Minister :
Go in Peace, and
in Joy.
Go together as partners
in life, sealing your union with a kiss.
Ladies and gentlemen,
I have the honor to present for the first time . . .
Mr. and Mrs. (N)! |