Mapping of Rules (MOR)

    Copyrighted © 1997 Frederick R. Ford M.D.

    About the MOR Assessment

    The Mapping of Rules (MOR) is a list of rules followed by people in several different kinds of families. Usually the rules are not talked about and only become known as the family members begin to understand how they interact with each other.

    As you identify some of the rules in your family, you can decide which rules you like and choose to keep and which rules are a burden and should be changed.

    Look at the first rule below, "Follow the Leader." If this is a rule in your family, click on 1 or 2 or 3. If "You don't have to follow the leader" is a rule in your family, click 5 or 4 or 3. Do the same with each of the 40 items. DO NOT mark any rules that do not apply to you in your family.

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    1. Follow the leader.
    1 2 3 4 5
    		You don't have to follow the leader.
    2. Obscure any difference or differentness.
    1 2 3 4 5
    		Don't obscure any difference or differentness.
    3. Don't let on what you really think and feel.
    1 2 3 4 5
    		Let on what you really think and feel.
    4. Do the "right thing."
    1 2 3 4 5
    		You don't have to do the "right thing."
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    5. Don't talk so anyone can hear.
    1 2 3 4 5
    		Talk so anyone can hear.
    6. Don't listen to what anyone says.
    1 2 3 4 5
    		Listen to what others say.
    7. Don't make sense out of what's going on.
    1 2 3 4 5
    		Make sense out of what's going on.
    8. Make noise or interrupt when a transaction nears completion.
    1 2 3 4 5
    		Don't make noise or interrupt when a transaction nears completion.
    9. Don't let on when you want anything for yourself.
    1 2 3 4 5
    		Let on you want something for yourself.
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    10. Don't express your pain verbally.
    1 2 3 4 5
    		Say "ouch" if you hurt.
    11. Don't express your anger.
    1 2 3 4 5
    		Express your anger.
    12. Do the right thing.
    1 2 3 4 5
    		Don't do the right thing.
    13. Maintain individual areas of autonomy at all costs.
    1 2 3 4 5
    		You don't have to maintain individual autonomy at an unreasonable cost.
    14. If anything goes wrong, and it can't be denied, blame someone or something else.
    1 2 3 4 5
    		If anything goes wrong, you don't have to deny it or blame someone else.
    15. When communicating, see to it that understanding can only occur by chance.
    1 2 3 4 5
    		When communicating, see that understanding doesn't occur by chance.
    16. Don't say what you really think and feel.
    1 2 3 4 5
    		Say what you really think and feel.
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    17. Don't ask questions.
    1 2 3 4 5
    		Ask questions.
    18. Don't give yes/no answers.
    1 2 3 4 5
    		Give yes/no answers.
    19. Don't make sense and order out of what's going on around you.
    1 2 3 4 5
    		Make sense and order out of what's going on around you.
    20. Don't make and order out of what's going on inside you.
    1 2 3 4 5
    		Make sense and order out of what's going on inside you.
    21. In the event you are in danger of finding out about yourself or someone else, be irrelevant or play dumb, or change the subject, or start a fight.
    1 2 3 4 5
    		In the event you are in danger of finding out about yourself or someone else, don't be irrelevant, play dumb, or start a fight.
    22. Don't listen to what others say.
    1 2 3 4 5
    		Listen to what others say.
    23. Listen to what you say; then pretend it is someone else and treat him that way.
    1 2 3 4 5
    		Listen to what you say; don't pretend it is someone else.
    24. It's important to appear to disagree.
    1 2 3 4 5
    		You don't have to appear to disagree.
    25. Take the no-risk position of bad or depressed, so that whatever happens will be experienced as good.
    1 2 3 4 5
    		Don't take the no-risk position of bad or depressed, so that whatever happens will be experienced as good.
    26. Don't complete anything.
    1 2 3 4 5
    		Complete some things.
    27. Good things can only happen once.
    1 2 3 4 5
    		Good things happen more than once.
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    28. Look good and be nice.
    1 2 3 4 5
    		Don't look good and be nice. Be real.
    29. Don't say what you think and feel.
    1 2 3 4 5
    		Say what you think and feel.
    30. Don't say what you want for yourself.
    1 2 3 4 5
    		Say what you want for yourself.
    31. Blame someone if anything goes wrong--yourself is first choice.
    1 2 3 4 5
    		Don't blame yourself or others if something goes wrong.
    32. Look for the good guy.
    1 2 3 4 5
    		You don't need to look for the good guy. Appreciate people for what they are.
    33. Know everything, and before anyone else.
    1 2 3 4 5
    		You don't have to know everything, and before anyone else.
    34. Don't talk about the past.
    1 2 3 4 5
    		It's okay to talk about the past.
    35. Don't get your hopes up.
    1 2 3 4 5
    		Have hope.
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    36. Two against the world.
    1 2 3 4 5
    		Two for the world.
    37. Children come last.
    1 2 3 4 5
    		Children come first.
    38. Share and share alike.
    1 2 3 4 5
    		Share and share alike.
    39. Every man for himself.
    1 2 3 4 5
    		One for all. All for one.
    40. Until death do us part.
    1 2 3 4 5
    		You will always be in my heart.

    Results:
    Two Against the World: Children Come First:
    Share and Share Alike: Every Man for Himself:
    Until Death Do Us Part: Overall score:

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